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Saturday, June 19, 2010

Week 34: Size Matters

All is well in the Land of Maintaining on the Belly Fat Cure. To be honest, maintenance is pretty much the same as regular BFC... okay it is exactly the same! The book doesn't really have much to say about a maintenance phase versus losing, so I'll ask Jorge Cruise about that next time I talk to him... (you know, if I talk to him again!)

It took a while to wean myself from weighing nearly everyday. My Mom was visiting me and she has also lost weight. She has a little bit of Dieter's ADD and has done BFC, plus a few other diet plans. But she informed me that I needed to weigh everyday. "Why" I asked "I'm at my goal weight and I don't want to obsess on a number". She agreed, but was afraid of starting to gain weight back and not realize it until it was too late.

That number on the scale says I've gained a 1/2 pound in the last month and puts me at 148. I'm good with that. Actually, no I am thrilled with that! I want to go off the feel of my clothing and how things are fitting. Granted sometimes I feel bloated and I am drinking much more water now then I was a month ago (thanks to the Kidney Stones). But bloat is different then fat.

The most interesting thing I have found about losing weight is my mental body image. I still see myself as squeezed into my size 14s. My size 8 jeans I bought a few months ago are pretty loose on me now, but looking down, they could definitely just be on old size 14s. It just doesn't register.  I went to Target to kill 30 minutes while my boys took a Break Dancing class (that's right, Break Dancing) this week and I bought three things. All size Small.  But I just can't wrap my head around that!

I kept thinking back to shopping at the The Limited a few years ago with a friend. In the dressing room I asked if I could get a sweater in XL when the Large was too tight. The salesgirl said "Sorry Ma'am, we don't carry that size".  Really? I felt a little like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when they just didn't want her type in their store. (Fat women in my case, not hookers which I totally understand)

One thing I have figured out is that I have hips and, as I've mentioned before, I have boobs. They are still there. They are smaller, for sure, but I have them. And I am slowly coming to appreciate them. They are what makes me a women, not an androgynous kid.

I'm curious, how often do you weigh? Do you weigh yourself regularly, even after you get to your goal? I want to go by the feel of my clothing, but I wonder how others do this. Because I certainly don't want to gain it back.

And did you notice the redesigned blog?! And I'm not actually sure it is Week 34 on the diet it could be 32 or 36 even. I need to start counting on months now, right?



  1. I've been maintaining, too, and have stopped weighing myself every day. It's just tooooo much! I want to live a life without constant worry, but rather constant consciousness. Does that make any sense?

    I'm also the same way with clothes. I still feel like I'm wearing 3XL or 4XL, when I'm not wearing MEDIUM sizes! Whaaaaat! It's just years of being one thing and now becoming something else -- gotta adjust and stay conscious! Great post!

  2. Amber-1st of all congratulations on your sucess & keeping it off. I'm a daily weigher & think it's ok as long as you understand how daily things affect the numbers (i.e. weigh at same time, same clothes, salt/carb intake day before & muscle gain). My concern is that if I weigh once/wk, what if the day I weigh in just happened to be a day my weight was higher & that if I had weighed the day before & after I would be a few lbs lighter, I might get upset more than if I weighed everyday and knew it was one of those fluke weighins. I currently still need to lose 40 lbs. I lost 35 lbs. about 11 yrs ago on Atkins & was a size 7/8. I let life get in the way & went up to a tight 14. This time I will continue to weigh in daily or at least a few times a week to avoid that happening again, but everyone should do what works best for them.

  3. I am with you on the hips and boobs...I set my goal weight based on about 10 pounds over what I was when I got married and had a kid. I am now in a size 8 clothes and small/medium shirts but still weight about 15 pounds above goal and 25 pounds over what I weighed in a size 8 before, not sure how it makes sense?

  4. I read once where different clothing companies will size down their clothes in order for you to buy their brand. For example what was a size 10 they label as a size 8, because if you had the choice to by a pair of jeans in a size 10 or a size 8 and they both fit the same you will by the size 8(causing you to buy their brand). Don't know if it is true or not but it could be one explanation.

  5. I am still in the needing to lose phase, and weigh myself only once a week. my problem is that i haven't lost any weight in the last three weeks. I have lost inches cause some old clothers that were tight now fit, but I want to see that number on the scale move! I have been eating the same as I did when I was losing. Getting at least 25 grams of fiber a day if not more with the chia seeds. Any suggestions on how to get that number on the scale moving downward again?

  6. Thanks for all your input! I totally get what Anthony means about a "constant consciousness"!

    Anonymous that messes with my head to think about that! Although it seems to me that the some stores are sized differently. Like Old Navy seems to size down.

  7. I have found, and it is definitely true, that one size at one store does not equal the same size at another. I just keep in mind where I shop and which styles do that.

  8. OK, so I have not even been on BFC for a full week and I admit that I am weighing everyday. LOL! I can see how this can become obsessive though and once I am at goal should try to weigh less frequently.

  9. Here is what Shape Magazine April 2010 had to say: "Unfortunately, many people struggle to recover from even the smallest slipups, including gains of as little as 2 to 5 lbs. That's why it's important to "react immediately to lapses...using the very tools that helped you pare down intitially. First, dust off that scale." It goes on to say of 6,000 participants on the National Weight Control Registry (losing 66+ lbs and keeping off for 5 1/2 years, most reported weighing themselves once a week, more than half do so every day. "The scale gives them an early warning sign."

    So if you do want to weigh yourself everyday I don't think you have to think you are being compulsive (unless you do it more than once a day that's a different story). I don't dwell on the number but I do use it as a daily gage. (I don't freak out if its higher but I do watch what I eat that day.

  10. "Weigh-in Method and Weight Scales"
    at Jorge's Discussion Board

  11. I've been doing BFC for a couple of months. My body has changed a lot. I love that I have more of an hourglass figure now. Here's the interesting part. I don't own a scale. So it's funny. People will ask me how much I've lost, and I tell them I have no idea. They think it's ludicrous. I have been so much kinder to myself not being tied to a number. I just follow the plan and have been getting progressively smaller. If it's a life plan, isn't that what it's all about? Scale numbers and sizes are all a concept. How do we know which one is right for us? I say eat this way for life and your body will find its perfect place. So you slip up, get right back on. If you do it consistently, none of the rest will matter. Unconventional, I know. But, I'm the happiest I've ever been.

  12. Well, I weigh myself everyday. I use it as a guide for my eating. I did measure myself at the beginning just to have a start measurement. Since I didn't have the dramatic weight loss that Jorge speaks of, I did have quite a loss in inches.
    More than weight loss, this plan has helped me to focus on what is hiding inside the foods I loved to eat and what they are doing to my body. Knowledge is power. At this time, I've lost 23 lbs and 6"(in my wasit).

  13. Keep trying and you will get to where you want to be. And congratulations on accomplishing so much. You should be really proud of yourself.

  14. This entry is EXACTLY what I needed today. I've been stuck in such a scale-rut. I waited a whole week to weigh myself, and was disappointed not to see a change, eventhough I've dropped a dress size and feel great. Why do I do that to myself! It's such a self-sabbotaging thing to do! And I step on the scale before I'm even fully AWAKE in the morning, so the first thought in my mind for the day is "Crap, I've already Failed." When, truly the Almighty Scale is WRONG. I have felt the best I've EVER felt on the BFC and have told myself that "Even if I never lose another pound on this program, I would still follow it every day", just because of how amazing it feels. And I love that comment above from Anthony about "constant consciousness". It's a much nicer way to live. - Tabi

  15. Does anyone fail on this diet? I'm so discouraged after beginning with such enthusiasm nearly a month ago. I've lost maybe a pound, though sometimes it's gained back over night. And I have one of those scales that display fat content -- and that has gone up! I think I'm following the diet closely. Anyone else having trouble? And I'm afraid with all the meat and cream that my cholesterol will be up. What am I doing wrong? I don't have a lot of weight to lose--maybe five pounds or so, but I'd love to lose it! Thanks, Discouraged