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Friday, February 5, 2010

Meet My Sister - Starting BFC Today

I am so excited to say that my sister has decided to the BFC! I told her if she didn't lose 12lbs in a month, she can quit and I'll stop bugging her about it. She is a long time Atkins devotee, but I think she will rock the Belly Fat Cure! I have agreed to be her coach, making meal plans, grocery lists, must have lists and getting her to use my Tracker. Ill be sharing it with you all too! Her issues are different than mine; she has been overweight since she was a teenager, is about to turn 50 and has over 100lbs to lose (she wont tell me exactly how much). She is such a beautiful person, and I know so many of you can related to her struggles. I can't wait to share her story with you all! She is a little shy, so I'm going to refer to her as Sister M.

You have been doing Atkins on and off for many years. Why do you keep trying to stick with it?  I lost 80 lbs in about a 10 months and it seemed effortless. Very easy to eat out and stay on.

What is it that makes Atkins attractive to you?  Cutting back the carbs really cuts the cravings.  Cuts out the reflux and heartburn.  No calorie counting.

What made you decide to do the BFC? You did… plus I’m ready to try something different.

What are your fears with trying a new diet plan?  I’ve had a low carb breakfast bar and coffee every morning for the last 5 years. It’s easy and fast. I don’t have to think about it. Worrying about that. I like something sweet in the morning and that’s my fix.  Need to find a replacement for it. Biggest thing is going to be counting everything again until I get my regular meals down. Got the book in last night and was surprised at a lot of the swap ideas.  Better Cheddars?? We’ll see if I can trust myself around an open box. Clearly will need to portion out a lot of stuff.

Are you ready to give up those artificial sweeteners that Atkins relies so heavy on? Because you know, I think that is key!  Yup. I had my coffee this morning with a packet of Stevia and a packet of Benefiber.  I also keep the crystal light “on the go” packets in my purse for a quick fix and really like them. So, I’m not going to throw those out cuz the kids like them and in a pinch… Oh… I do usually have a sugar free popsicle at night with Brad. I’ll miss that.

Will you share your before/after photos and actual weight? I had no plans on putting up photos, but my readers really motivated me to do it! (Why or why not). Yah – I’ll share photos. And I’ll share my measurements. I actually bought a LOOONGGG measuring tape last night!  The weight, I’m not going give. It’s too painful and embarrassing and depressing. Leave me alone about my weight.  And you can post this.  Just put MORBIDLY OBESE. I would give you my BMI but you know too much about me to back into my weight. I’m fat. I’m short. I’m old.

OK. I’m putting a stake in the ground on my first day on the BFC.  I turn 50 this year and would really like to be a normal sized person again.  I gained 100 pounds after a year of marriage and birth control pills 30 years ago.  Have battled to keep it under 300 pounds for the last 10.  I’m either on a diet and losing, or off a diet and gaining.  My last phase before returning to Atkins last October, I affectionately refer to as my “hurry up and die phase.” I was eating as much as I could as fast as I could.  I was the ultimate definition of insatiable.  I couldn’t sleep at night because of the reflux and the fullness.  It went on for about 6 months before I confided in my other sister about what was going on, although I have NO idea why I was on such an obvious path of destruction.  With my sibs and mom participating, I lost about 25 pounds by Christmas and made it through New Years, but have not been able to stay focused since then.

I’ve got two GREAT kids, 22 and 14 and a great husband of almost 30 years.  I’ve got a fabulous support system with my sibs and mom always supporting my weight loss programs.  I love them all dearly and support them in their endeavors as well.  But they’ll never understand the whole picture of a morbidly obese woman and her struggles….(I PRAY!).   Talk of sizes 10s and 8’s and 6’s…it’s all, well… pie in the sky to me.  I truthfully don’t know if that can ever happen for me.  I think my life could be so much different at a size 12. 

About 5 years ago, I went to Baylor Medical Center in the DFW for a consultation for gastric bypass surgery.  They are the top place with the lowest morbidity rate. They have an extensive screening process and it took about six months from first contact to surgery.  After the initial consultation, I had a doctor’s visit with my primary physician.  The nurse and the doctor made some off the cuff remarks about my size, to each other. I even joked along with the nurse and told her to watch her feet as I laid back on the table without a bra on.  I left there feeling ….I don’t know,  complete failure, depression, embarrassment. Rock bottom.  I was meeting a girl friend for lunch after the appointment at a local Tex Mex restaurant and was ready to load up on the salsa and chips, but was too depressed to partake. I felt that everyone was looking at me.  This friend probably didn’t weigh 100 pounds and was constantly chatting me up about Atkins.  I had tried everything but that. Who cared if you could eat what you wanted as long as it didn’t have any carbs. That’s all I wanted!  So I ordered what she did and ate what she did.  For the next 3 days, I ate no carbs.  I told no one of my experience. On the 4th day, I woke up with a terrible headache, but decided to weigh an was down 10 pounds in 4 days.  I bought the Atkins book that day and that was the beginning.

About 10 months later and 80 pounds down, I had a hysterectomy.  My surgeon and I agreed that with the large apron of fat hanging below my abdomen, that my incision would not be able to heal and we had a plastic surgeon close and perform a panneculectomy.  I lost 9 pounds of skin that day, and that was the last loss I would see. After the hysterectomy, I quit walking and could not stay on program.  I’ve come and gone off Atkins a dozen times in the last 5 years with some success, but always find myself back at the scales with my head hanging low.

So here I am today.  Amber has promised to be my coach and I’m trusting her.  Thanks for giving me a chance to share in your success, Amber!


  1. So happy to hear Amber is going to help you. She has helped so many of us on the BFC with this blog.
    She is very encouraging to me. I always go to her site to see what is going on in her life, I will be looking in to see how things are going for you.

  2. Dear Sister M, We all love Amber and her encouragement. Please know that you can do anything and with her help you will do great! Amber is an inspiration to me and I enjoy chatting with her. I look forward to hearing your progress.

  3. I am rooting for you Sister M. Please do not give up on yourself. You have people who love you and you deserve to love yourself (inside and out) as well.
    Give this a chance.

    p.s. Your doc and his nurse should be told off!! Totally unprofessional and rude!


  4. Good luck M! You will see remarkable results if you hang with Amber. She's our BFC Cheerleader: give me an A, give me an M, give me a B - E - R! OK, lameness aside, you will feel so much better, in more ways than one; weight loss will become an added bonus.

  5. Best of Luck to you M., Know that you are NOT alone! I find comfort in knowing others I have never personally met are all in this together and have come together online to share their personal struggles!

  6. M, you said you like Crystal Light (me too) and there is one we can have called Purefitness Crystal Light. You add it to a bottle of water or 2 cups of water and it's made with stevia. It comes in a variety of flavors and can be found at the super center Walmart stores. You can find a great tasting replacement for everything you love on this program. Best of luck to you! Maureen