Today I want to talk about fear and how it wiggles into our lives and encourages us to give up. For me, fear often shows up as stress. I'm stressed about this and stressed about that, but really I am afraid of those things. Did you know that often, the FEAR of something is more powerful and paralyzing than the ACTUALITY of the thing itself. Fear is your subconscious wanting you to give up, the devil on your shoulder that says you're not good enough to succeed. You don't deserve more than this. Fear is the bully on the schoolyard of your mind. And if we let it, it can keep us from our true potential.
Do you avoid starting a diet, because you think you might fail? Why bother? Or don't try something new because you think you may look dumb trying? Do you not set new goals for yourself, because you already know you can't meet them?
Do you set your expectations of yourself (and those around you) low, so you won't be disappointed? Three years ago my News Years Resolution was to "Wear more jewelry" because I knew I could do that. The years' before resolutions of "Lose 20 lbs", well I knew I couldn't do that so why try again. But that year I proudly wore necklaces, bracelets and even a toe ring a few times and was proud I had stuck with it. Fear won that year, and I didn't even know it.
Do you not open a bill or listen to a voicemail, because you think it might be bad news? If you just don't hear or see it, it can't hurt you right? Do you avoid a person because you're are afraid of conflict? Or avoid letting people get too close, afraid they won't like the real you? Or call out other people's faults, before they have a chance to see yours?
Then fear, like Charlie Sheen on a bad day, is winning in your life.
I am struggling with fear right now, this very moment. Fear I've spread myself to thin, and let the people around me down. Fear I can't finish this race on Sunday and fear I can't manage my kids and household with my Husband on a long business trip. Fear that I don't look as good as that After photo.
So today I am recognizing that fear and calling it out by name. You don't own me. You're not going to control me. I CAN do these things, and I WILL do them well. I AM that women, no matter what the mirror or the scales say today. Move over fear, I'm about to pass you by...
You gotta love Stuart Smalley with his simple message about self acceptance. See, he listened to his own message and is a Senator now. A little humor always helps me in a tough situation and I hope if fear has a grip on you, that this helps you call it out too.